Out there, there might not be any issues with the question of whether it is good to date a married man who is not happy in his marriage. However, in some religious orders, this is completely unacceptable. Dismissing with a wave of the hand any questions asked by young single adults, no matter how absurd it may sound is certainly a mistake on the part of parents, counselors, coaches and religious leaders. Those who ask these questions need answers that are grounded in logic or sound judgment. This is why it would be necessary to spend any time on this question, given its explicit and direct implication or ramification.
One reason why this question cannot be ignored is the fact that people go out of their way to seek for justification for any action they have taken or are enticed strongly to take. For example, in this question, you can hear the young single adult woman advocating for the man who is not happy in his marriage. You could also hear such justification points as the man has decided to divorce his wife. Most of the time, the love or lust struck single woman is only repeating what the man had told her. It is only the man that can say that he is not happy in his marriage, and is planning a divorce. The single woman involved, enticed by a myriad of things such as wealth, age being against her, peer pressure or even persistence on the part of the man, buys the man’s justification and adopts it as her own position. This is why it should not be treated lightly, and the woman involved should be listened to regardless of the feelings that the situation arouses in a counselor, coach, religious leader or parent.
Here are some issues any woman who is being asked out by a married man should be considering:
• A married man has no moral rights to ask another woman out – Marriage is a sacred contract. A man who is married to a woman is morally bound to respect and honor her and himself. Any involvement in any form of extra-marital relationship is not morally acceptable.
• A married man who asking another woman out is going against the laws of the land and of God – It is called adultery in law and a sin against God’s laws in the scriptures.
• Being unhappy in a marriage is only an excuse for immorality – Any reason for doing what is wrong or failing to do what is right is a mere excuse and excuses are useless and in fact, foolishness.
• About to or would divorce his wife is not divorce – Divorce means split, separation, break-up or annulment of a marriage. It is not the same as about to or would divorce his wife.
• A woman who has self-respect should feel insulted by a married man asking her out – Self-respect is a key that all women need to hold in front in all relationships with the opposite sex. Without self-respect, it would be difficult to have mutual respect. You would never gain the respect of man you allowed to use you to fight his wife.
• Imagine yourself in the shoe of the legally and lawfully married woman – Think for once, what if you are the other woman with whom her husband is unhappy. Would you not rather that the relationship is worked at and repaired. How would you feel if your husband abandons you for another woman because he is unhappy with you.
• A woman who accepts such a dating invitation from a married man is in moral error – No matter whatever justification you may feel in your mind, deep down in your heart, you know that you would be in serious moral error to accept a dating invitation from a married man; talking about being morally loose.
• A woman who accepts such a dating invitation is being covetous – It is evidence of covetousness to accept a dating invitation from a married man. Either the greed to get material gain or envy should drive a woman to this point.